Saturday, July 16, 2016

The Policeman's Wife

Jack Dunphy does it again - a timely and heart-wrenching article.

Go read it all.

If we tried to quote it, we wouldn't know where to start and couldn't do it justice.



Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow. So sad and glad to have read that. Bless you all.

7/16/2016 12:21:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This article applies not only to the wives but also the husbands' of policewomen. All children including the Adult children of Police officers. Parents of police officers. Siblings of police officers.

7/16/2016 12:27:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This gave me a knot in my throat (trying to prevent tears)

-A Cop

7/16/2016 12:31:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

NAC . I could barely get thru that. Very sobering. God Bless you all and thank you.

7/16/2016 12:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gut wrenching well written piece.
Happened to me when I was 11 years old.
Don't give up fellas. Lotta shit getting piled up on us right now. More everyday. Special Ed says he has our backs but his actions prove much different. I'm sorry Supe but I, we, do not believe your little video. You let us down big time. Why do you not speak out like Sheriff David Clarke? Instead of taking the side of the shitheads. If Rahm fires you who cares, at least you went out with brass balls. Instead of peanuts. When many despise us and call for our blood to be spilled based on lies, and the hate is everywhere, all we have is each other. I will be going home to my children and not letting them go thru what I went thru. God bless and stay the course. The karma pendulum will swing back our way in time and all these BLM and aclu white guilt trust fund baby offended by everything safe space liberal fucks will eventually slaughter each other and the city will turn on itself and go broke. And who will they be calling? activity, no tickets, nothing. Answer calls and back each other up. Get a gun or dope or an arrest on a call then great. You go runnin and gunnin on your own you're askin for trouble, just ask Ed. That's it. All the rest is bullshit.

7/16/2016 12:55:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Before cell phones, was on perimeter duty where a carload of sh*theads was buckshot by PO's. Saw news vans pulling up during the 9PM hour and figured uh oh. Walked to the CTA station payphone and called the wife to assure we were all okay. Told my rookie to do the same. They have an often unappreciated burden to bear. This is a great piece of writing by Jack.

7/16/2016 02:14:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very moving.

7/16/2016 03:09:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Since you've been away
I've been down and lonely
Since you've been away
I've been thinking of you
Trying to understand
The reason you left me
What were you going through?

I'm missing you
Tell me why the road turns
Ooh ooh
I'm missing you

--Diana Ross

A pretty song, that I periodically turn to for refuge even after a killing in my family that I still cannot come to grips with.

God bless all here. Stay safe/

7/16/2016 03:12:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Our father, retired Chicago Police Detective, Harry Belluomini was killed 24 years ago on July 20, 1992 at the Dirksen Federal Bldg. while working with the U.S. Marshals and that is exactly what we went through ~ we heard on the news about a shooting at the Federal Bldg. and waited for a phone call from him telling us that everything was okay and he would be home soon for dinner...when that call never came, we got scared and tried to call but my Mom wanted us to stay off the phone in case someone from the Federal Bldg. was going to call us and let us know. We told her that they would send someone to the house and just then, the doorbell rang and we just froze, not wanting to answer the door because we was the longest ride to Northwestern Hospital and we kept asking the driver how our Dad was and if he could go faster but he never answered and just kept driving on the shoulder of the Kennedy expressway at rush hour with the lights & sirens and we's just a sick feeling you have and you just keep praying even though you already know it will be too late when you get there that you won't get to say goodbye or that you loved him and thank him for always being there and for being such a wonderful father....when we got to the hospital, there were police officers and U.S. Marshals everywhere trying to talk to our family but we just wanted to see our Dad, thinking he might be waiting for us, but deep down we knew that he wasn't...that it was too late to say anything to him because he was already dead when they brought him to the hospital.
I can't remember what I did a week ago, let alone three days ago but I do remember that day 24 years ago....God Bless our police officers ~ please stay safe and come home to your families who matter most of all.

7/16/2016 05:25:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All I can say is excellent article 5 stars

7/16/2016 05:48:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

no words can express my sympathy........

7/16/2016 07:24:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very good read sheriff David Clarke coming here to speak at police luncheon I registered yesterday:

Retiree Luncheon - Guest Speaker Milwaukee Sheriff David A. Clarke, Jr.

Tuesday, August 9, 2016
11:00am 1:00pm
Please join Paul Vitaioli's Northsiders Retiree Luncheon at BIAGIOS, 4240 N Central Avenue, onTuesday, 9 August, from 11:00 am - 1:00 pm.

Milwaukee Sheriff David A Clarke, Jr. will be a guest speaker.

Interested members MUST RSVP no later than Monday, 1 August, by contacting Paul Vitaioli at: or by cell at 312-402-1040.

Former Superintendents Jim O'Grady, Matt Rodriguez and Phil Cline will be attending.

President Dean C. Angelo, Sr. will address the group about the override of the Governor's veto of SB 777 and how this affects the membership.

Phil Cline will address the group about CPMF and how it supports police officers and their families.

7/16/2016 07:49:00 AM  
Blogger The Keesing Bandit said...

It made me sad but it is very true.

7/16/2016 08:09:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very heart breaking. So much so that nit wit in chief maybe should have read it before he spent the 2nd 1/2 of a 40 min babbling diatribe at their funerals into a free air time commercial of his twisted, leftist world view. Just let them grieve Obama, nobody wants to hear your anti-police philosophy at a funeral.

7/16/2016 08:32:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Page May at it again

"There's no evidence to suggest that police are actually keeping us safe," May said after the event. "Show me one example where adding more police and prisons makes a city safer. The opposite happens."

7/16/2016 08:51:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


7/16/2016 09:33:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

And the political elite are still making the police the bad guys!

7/16/2016 10:19:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

But everyone has an opinion on how they can
do what we do:


With surveillance and blue-light cameras,
speed and red-light cameras for all...
"We're freeing up Cops from having to
do mundane things like traffic enforcement."

"We need to change the Police-As-Warriors
mindset and culture to reflect Chicago Values."

The ones flapping their unsecured cock-holsters
are so obtuse that they're unable to make the
slightest connection between how heart-wrenching
Dunphy's writing is and the Policeman-As-Warrior
ethos. ESPECIALLY in America's Democrat-Controlled
urban centers.

The Joyful Haters say:
"Stop thinking so much of yourselves!
You knew the risks when you signed up
for the job! So stop thinking so much
about protecting yourselves and going
home to your families and loved ones
at the end of your tour of duty no matter
what. That sounds mean and brutish to
US and is very concerning."

They're so smug, aren't they?

"We're taking down The Police!"

...Only to be left with what?
The one-size-fits-all Nanny State?
Or the slippery slope fantasy of
For Us, By Us - Fuck The Rest
of Everybody Else?

"De-Fund tha' Po-leece an' gibs
dey money to us!"
The long fantasized Reparations...
By any other name.

They're "tired" of the so called
"Police Genocide" occurring in
their neighborhoods, huh?

They seem to be quite tolerant
of being plagued by their known
and home-grown death cult
terrorist kinsmen and accquaintances
joyously maiming 1000's and killing
100's of their other kinsmen and

"We'll keep takin' y'awl tax money but y'awl
just shut up and mind y'awl bidness. Now
leave us alone until we need more funding."

Rahm's pandering = Using taxpayer treasure
as a potent political weapon against the taxpayers.
Policemen loudly calling "Bullshit," the rest of
everybody else saying Policemen are whining.

Atlas didn't just shrug...
He has a hard to reach itch.

7/16/2016 10:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

stripping a police officer on orders from a punk that spits on , punches , attempted to disarm a police officer , I don't think so .
looks like he name fits
mr. six got screwed

7/16/2016 11:28:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


7/16/2016 11:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To all: I don't know if this happens to you who have a loved one that is in Law Enforcement, I truly never realized what my wifes thoughts were each day or night I went off to work in a unit in the CPD that worked every nasty district in this city, but now as I am retired and have a Son on the job I often battle the demons in my head as I think about how screwed up society is and how the NEWS MEDIA degrades polices officers everyday and am always worried about his safety, I never gave second thoughts for my safety everyday but now as I am older and wiser I still worry about the police I see on the streets, STAY ALERT AND NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN, THE SAD PART IS THAT THE BOSSES THAT ARE SUPPOESED TO LEAD AND MENTOR YOU ARE SPINELESS COWARDS ONLY IN THE GAME FOR THEMSELVES AND THE ENRICHMENT OF THE GOOD MONEY THEY ARE PAID.

7/16/2016 11:44:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Heartbroken for those who received the call. Grateful that my family member made it to retirement. Beautifully written and very poignant.

7/16/2016 01:58:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Rough. Got choked up. Memories. Thanks SCC, Jack. Had to be told.

ABCD (Ret)

7/16/2016 02:32:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


One recommendation calls for the department to revise its "fleeing felon" rule, which allows officers to shoot fleeing suspects who have committed violent crimes. The department's current policy follows the outline of the state statute on justifiable shootings by police, but IPRA recommended that the policy be revised to be more restrictive

7/16/2016 03:29:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

very dusty in here.

7/16/2016 04:13:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Once again, I thank God, my husband is retired. I hope the rest of you make it out alive.

7/16/2016 06:14:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Meanwhile, somewhere else, a woman and her children go to the grocery store in relative safety, because of the police doing their jobs in her neighborhood.

And at the same time, some scumbag, black, white, brown, doesn't matter, gripes to his wide-eyed, drug-addled friends, about how evil cops are, and how they need to "do something" to stop those "evil cops". That's why they're going to the BLM protest later, because that will somehow make things "better". The old "if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem" mentality, that insists that simply living our lives is a form of failure.

7/16/2016 06:23:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So touching. Lost a great friend on the job. Sad thing is it will happen again. What is worse is the fact that every day police are losing even more power to do the job. The mission of Serve and Protect is history. Today just answer your calls, watch each others back and go home safe to your loved ones.

7/16/2016 09:11:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

God Bless the fallen and their families.

7/16/2016 09:19:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very touching!! I had to hold back my tears reading it. Let this be a reality check and a reminder to all of us in blue that our priority is to go home safe to our families at the end of our shift. Please be safe my brothers and sisters. All we have is each other out there.

7/16/2016 09:19:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

to 0525 AM. I worked with your Dad in old A/5. Harry "Bell" was a helluva a guy and a great "dick'. I too, still remember that day. So sorry for your loss. I Never can never forget him singing in the Squadroom. Pavarotti he wasn't!! But what a Great guy!

7/16/2016 09:27:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is difficult to lose a close friend to a line of duty death. I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like for families to lose a loved one.

Off topic - I read that people applying for Illinois unemployment will be required to submit a resume in order to collect benefits. It will facilitate finding the applicant employment.

When will public aid recipients become productive members of society. It seems that if you worked during your lifetime, you have to fight to get anything. However, multi-generational public aid families receive anything and everything free. Something is really wrong with the system.

7/16/2016 11:37:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There is a copper's wife who is going thru bullshit right now. His wife is a nurse at University of Chicago. She had post on her Facebook page supporting police and that BLM was a bullshit. Well ..... black nurses at U of C made photo copies of her Facebook posts and put them all over the walls of the hospital, which were not malicious, but supported police. The black nurses have had meetings about the "racist" nurse .... all because she supported the police (her husband) and denounced BLM. Why can't a white person practice freedom of speech, without being called a racist. Something needs to be done! BLM protests without repercussions. I think this site is a perfect median to organize a movement to attempt to counter theses movements.
We have a brother in blue, who's wife, a nurse helping people and doing the right thing, is working in a ridiculously hostile work environment because she supports her husband and the police. I hate to repeat myself, but SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE!! Freedom of speech is only for those who don't practice traditional values.

7/16/2016 11:47:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Heart breaking. I remember well when we lost ours like the beloved daughter of Harry have for over two decades ago.
You guys remember all the puke NFL, NBA, and others who hate the police and stop supporting them. Beyoncé, Obama old lady' best friend is another pos. Remember these mutt alleged stars that are leaches. They talk a good game for the ghetto folks and would not set foot anywhere near them.

7/17/2016 12:14:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As moving as Jack Dunphy's, The Policeman's Wife, is - and its words froze me in place like few times I can remember - the photograph of the widow's face accompanying the story is ... I can't even come up with words to describe the woman's brokenness. She's there but she's not there; and I only hope with as much heart as I have left anymore, that time will somehow bring her healing.

Be safe you coppers. You good coppers. For the job you do is THE ONLY FUCKING THING that separates the lawless from inflicting more heartbreak on the innocents.

Sorry for the caps.

7/17/2016 02:37:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Harry was a great Man, and his daughter' was a great Woman, "GOD BLESS THERE FAMILY"!

7/17/2016 08:59:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Harry "Bell" was a HERO !! Too young to have worked with him, but father in law told great stories of them working together. Your Dad died as a true hero, killing an escaped murderer, who knows how bad it could've gotten if he wasn't stopped by your Dad. I often talk of your Dads heroic deed to save innocent lives. So please take solice knowing that when you remember your Dad, there are many of us that know the story and history of Harry "Bell", the Father, the Policeman and THE HERO .

7/17/2016 10:38:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

great read thank you, tough guy I am brought to tears!

7/17/2016 04:04:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I knew Harry form area 5 when I was in 025 back in the day. A great guy and detective. I often think of him when I see certain things in the news. Just retired and a US Marshall a true hero.

7/17/2016 08:34:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

05:25AM - To the Belluomini family's poster: i also remember that fateful day and hope that our police family remembers your father's sacrifice and the subsequent confusion over whether it should have been designated a line of duty death. Only last week we lost two retired policemen who were serving as Court Security Officers in Berrien Co. Michigan. ANY job in law enforcement can one day become a nightmare, whether in a rural or urban setting.
If i remember correctly, the judges in the Federal Building had a plaque dedicated to your father's heroic actions. May he rest in peace.

Retired .38spl +P

7/18/2016 11:57:00 PM  

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