Officer Suicide
Once again, we appear to have lost one of our own to a suicide.
Officers - please please please reach out for help. Employee Assistance, a friend, the chaplains, whomever. There is always a solution. It might be a long hard road, but with help, it can be traveled safely.
Suicide is not the answer. And the people you leave behind hurt more than you know.
No information regarding the officer will be posted at this time. Prayers, thoughts and encouragement for family, friends and co-workers only.
Officers - please please please reach out for help. Employee Assistance, a friend, the chaplains, whomever. There is always a solution. It might be a long hard road, but with help, it can be traveled safely.
Suicide is not the answer. And the people you leave behind hurt more than you know.
No information regarding the officer will be posted at this time. Prayers, thoughts and encouragement for family, friends and co-workers only.
Labels: officer down
posted by SCC at 9:01 AM
115 Comments:
St. Michael, The ArchAngel,defend us in battle, be our defense against the snares and wickedness of the Devil, May God rebuke Him, We humbly Pray, And do Thou Prince of The Heavenly Host, cast into the fires of Hell, Satan, and all those Evil Spirits that prowl about for the ruin of Men's Souls. Amen.
Prayers and Thoughts with the Family, May Your Perpetual Light Shine Upon Him O Lord, Amen.
Thoughts and prayers for my departed brother or sister as well as the family!
This job is a great job.
To bad the department and city are in the toilet. I remember a boss once said to me, " this job has been very good to me" My answer yea maybe so but my balls and my soul are still my own. This boss now snubbs me. Never let these goofs get to you. Talk,talk,talk, to a family member or dear friend. This is so tragic.
You will be missed so much. My thoughts and prayers to your new husband and your family. The world is a sad place without you in it. R.I.P. my sister in blue..
Prayer of St. Michael
Saint Michael, heaven's glorious commissioner of police, who once so neatly and successfully cleared God's premises of all its undesirables, look with kindly and professional eyes on your earthly force.
Give us cool heads, stout hearts, and uncanny flair for investigation and wise judgement.
Make us the terror of burglars, the friend of children and law-abiding citizens, kind to strangers, polite to bores, strict with law-breakers and impervious to
temptations.
You know, Saint Michael, from your own experiences
with the devil that the police officer's lot on earth is not always a happy one; but your sense of duty that so pleased God, your hard knocks that so surprised the devil, and your angelic self-control give us inspiration.
And when we lay down our night sticks, enroll us in your heavenly force, where we will be as proud to guard the throne of God as we have been to guard the city of all the people.
Amen.
May God bless you and your family
Oh, no. This is the saddest of news. May the Officer rest in peace. Family and friends will be in my prayers.
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Lord we commit the soul of this officer to you oh Lord and we ask that when he arrives at the gates of eternity you will let him in.
Lord help his family, friends and fellow officers to feel the power of your presence and receive comfort.
Dear Merciful Father, Almighty God, please send your angels to guide this soul to a place of refreshment light in peace. Your mercy is endless, your treasury of compassion inexhaustible, please have Love & Mercy on us all especially this family in mourning.
GOD bless CPD, GOD bless us all!
God speed to the officer! please look out for each other we are all we have, the exempts don't give a shit please help each other!!
Horrible news. Just Horrible for lack of better words.
she was a great person and officer, god bless her soul. i knew her,worked with her and don't live that far from her...her family is in my prayers
Im so sorry for the Officer and his family. No words can express my sorrow. A brother in blue.
This is not the answer. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. RIP Officer.
I knew this officer since she came on the job. It was a hard pill to swallow when i heard the news. Please say a prayer for her and her family.
I was in that spot one time and somehow was able to crawl out of that darkness. I wish i would've gotten help. It would've made things a lot easier. This job absolutely takes a toll on your mental health.
RIP Brother. To the family and the family in blue I am so sorry for your loss.
A Stone Park P.O.
Our prayers are with her family and friends...
Peer support needs to start hitting all watches yeah must PO's don't need it, but there are people out there that need help and PO's that know of other brothers and sisters that can use their help as well. All members should address peer support in roll call at least once a month.
To her family, may GOD help pull you through this time in your life. Your daughter, sister was a great person to be around. For the short time she was in 008 she made a positive impression upon me. She was very sharp, a good working copper! A true street smart southside city girl.
She always had a smile on her face even the last time I talked to her, that is the confusing part of this ordeal. Tears run down my face as I compose myself in order to describe your wonder daughter and sister, as she so touched my heart. I will truly miss her.
008 1st watch
I hate to hear this. Condolences to family, friends, and officers of the CPD.
ECS
It should be Clear to all the leadership that were are hurting and abused. There is no support for what the "Dirty Blue" do. I just want to say Thank you Officers for keeping me and my family safe.
This loss affects everyone. My heart goes out to all of you.
Guys, TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS! Tell them how you feel. Chances are they have felt the same way before OR FEEL THAT WAY NOW.
You may save your family and friends some real heartfelt grief at the loss of someone they love.
Suicide is not the answer. And the people you leave behind hurt more than you know.
Truth.
That is sad to hear.
We have lost too many officers to violence. Please pay attention to your co workers health. We need to keep an eye on each other. Thoughts and prayers go out to the officers family.
that is REALLY SAD news...
R I P office
Prayers for the Family of the Officer, condolences for their loss.
How very sad! Thoughts & Prayers to her family. RIP Officer.
Thoughts with the officer's family and friends on this terrible tragedy.
God Bless her
let's look out for each other
listen to your partners , offer solutions
Pray for our police
Truly sad. More of us die by our own hand than are killed by the bad guys. It is not just CPD. It is truly one of the hazards of our profession. If you need help please get it. Reach out to someone. Also for the rest of us if you see one of us that needs help please do something. My prayers are with this officer's family.
Speaking as someone who has battled depression for many years, and also contemplated suicide on more than one occasion, I understand the feelings of hopelessness that can drive a person to take their own life. And I'm a civilian, who doesn't have to go through all the stress, and deal with the daily bullshit that police officers do.
But, as they say, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you feel suicidal, please talk to someone - there are many people who are willing to help.
God Bless the deceased officer. May she find the peace that she could not find on earth.
REST IN PEACE BROTHER
God bless you and your family officer.
My condolences go out to all the CPD family & the family he left @ home. I am a member of the CFD and we had a 2 year span where we lost about 4-5 guys from the same cause.
SCC is right, the people left behind hurt even more then the person who left usually. Guys & girls there are plenty of ways to get help 24/7. There are plenty of people that are willing to help you any time of the day or night all you need to do is ask. Don't let the macho person that the 2 jobs get for not being man enough to ask for it.
Also we need to also pay more attention to the people we work with. If things don't seem normal do not be afraid to ask or pry a little. They will thank you in the long run for helping.
God bless us ALL.
May she rest in peace.
I lost a partner to suicide. He was a good man, a good cop and a good Father. His cup was to full for him to bear it. If you ever, ever become aware of any of the indicators that some one is contemplating ending it all, please do the right thing. Intervene. Notify your superiors. Do anything you can. You may jeopardize your friendship(s), but your courage might save a life. trx
Rest in peace, officer.
May you find peace. For everyone else find someone to talk to.
Rest in peace, officer.
by all accounts a great person and wonderful cop
Thank You Dr Sobo at Employee Assistance for helping me put my life back in order.
Everyone should make an effort to recognize the signs and signals that someone is slipping into a depression. While most people affected by depression can hide it well and often do, it's up to those closest to be sensitive to warning signals, change in mood and behavior. If you think something is going on, start pushing and don't let up. Even if they get pissed. They need to know they are not alone and that things will get better. If you have to intervene, do it, don't worry about their reaction. Get them help. Nothing is so difficult that someone should resort to this.
This is a very sad outcome for something that most likely would have gotten better or ironed itself out. I feel very bad for this officer and whatever she was going through.
---not a cop
May they rest in peace
RIP officer
You, my dear girl, were a ray of sunshine. I am happy to have known you, and I'm sorry I was not near enough to you to somehow make a difference. I heard of your wedding on the same day I heard of your passing. Love you, honey. You will be sorely missed.
There's a conflict in every human heart, between the rational and the irrational, between good and evil. And good does not always triumph. Sometimes, the dark side overcomes what Lincoln called 'the better angels of our nature."Every man has a breaking point" Rest in peace to someone that touched many
Sometimes the Pain...
Is Greater...
Than Love...
Or Life Itself...
May You Have The Peace You Desperately Were Looking For...
What A Damn Shame said....
She was a super nice person who was a leader and not your typical idiot copper who just follows people. She had independent thought and made good decision's at work. For I am so sorry for her loss and the devastation that her Family is living with now.
P.O. J.M.
Fellow officer's, please watch out for the officers that responded to this tragedy. they will need your help in the comming days.. It is not an easy thing that they went through on the call.. God Speed Sister in Blue.
What a tragic end to a young officers life. May she rest in peace, for she is with the Lard. My prayers are with her and her family.
God Bless you Dear. God please hold our sister in blue and cradle her in you loving & peaceful arms. God Bless her family & friends.
REST IN PEACE
Thank You Dr Sobo at Employee Assistance for helping me put my life back in order.
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Amen to that. He helped me through a tough time. Thank you Dr Sobo.
PO JG
My thoughts and prayers for this PO's family and the CPD family. All the posts here have brought up necessary info for those of us in need of guidance. Please accept whatever help is available and realize life has many good points, we only need to find them.
To the CPD,
Im very sorry for your loss.
May God keep her and bless her.
psc
I am not sure of all the facts, but just knowing one of my CPD sisters in blue didn't feel she could bear anymore, hurts my heart. I am a member of peer support and not many people know that we are all officers in your district who are trained to listen and help as much as we can....if nothing but to have a person you know will have an open heart and ear is all we all need...seek help PLEASE from peer support officers in your district. Don't let this job take your sunshine!!
GOD BE WITH HER AND HER FAMILY
006
Please make sure the guys that responded to the officer down talk to stress debriefing or each other-it is very difficult to process when it is one of us.
Girls, we need to be there for each other.
GOD'S PEACE
Though this maybe difficult, one thing I know is true.
That the God of Peace and Love, has His Angels watching over you.
When the pain is great and we cry with deep despair,
there is a peace that will some day come,
because I know God cares, and God still answers prayers.
All things that happen in our life, will work out for our good
and though we can not understand:
Even our agony has a place within God's master plan.
If we could see around the bend, a year ahead or maybe even two.
We may begin to understand the things, God has brought us through.
My heart does not ache and hurt quite as bad as yours;
but there is still pain within my heart
and a void to which there are no cures.
Time we are told, will heal the pain within our hearts we feel;
but I'm so glad to know until it does,
we can rest assured that God's love and peace are real.
God is watching us through His eyes of love and grace,
to give us peace and comfort, until we see His blessed face.
Please remember this my friend,
GOD HAS YOU IN HIS HANDS.
So close your eyes and climb right into the open hands of God, and as
you feel God's presence; may He fill you with His peace,
and grace and love.
God will never leave you, no matter what you go through.
God's love is there to guide you, no matter what the task.
One day when we can see all the trials, God has carried us through,
Then we will understand and know that we are finally home at last.
As God's angels hover around you, doing what God has said;
May you find the comfort you are seeking as you rest your weary head.
May God's peace fill your heart, as you rest within God's might hands,
to save and love and comfort you, is God's master plan.
Grace M. Jordan Copyright 3-1-1996©
RIP Officer, pull through CPD, its always a horrible day for all of law enforcement when any police blood is shed.
-Small Sheriff's Office in Montana-
Prayers to her and her family, very sorry to hear of this.
Please talk to someone if you are feeling like harming yourself. You would be surprised if you knew how many of your peers and supervisors have sought counseling and even more surprised at how many are on meds. It's nothing to feel ashamed about.
--Sgt. Nowacki 017 3rd Watch
I have been through this same situation. In that I responded to an officer down. I had fellow officers offer help to me and to listen to me. I did not have any bosses offer to help me... Your fellow officers are there for you and they do not judge ......
Rest easy my brother. And may God Bless his family.....
Cicero PD
Apologies for my error. Rest easy my sister. May God Bless her family...
Cicero PD
Thank You Dr Sobo at Employee Assistance for helping me put my life back in order.
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Amen to that. He helped me through a tough time. Thank you Dr Sobo.
P.O. JG
I will also say thank you to Dr. Sobo. He has and continues to help me deal with my family, the job and
everyday issues. Guys and girls, please find someone to talk with before you make such a permanent decision.
And if you are the chosen one, do not put that persons business in the street. And in closing, if you see someone seeking help for whatever reason, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF
P.O. CT
We are expected to be like robots... To "fix" every problem that comes our way... We are looked upon as super heros and are to feel no pain... We are police officers, we all have families, children who we love and need to provide for... We have personal issues within our own families weather they be financial, physical, mental etc... we are NOT robots. We are human beings.. we have feelings, we make mistakes, we feel pain.... But NOTHING is worth hurting yourself over... NOTHING! We have endured many difficult moments in all of our lives.. we see things that we must keep in our minds and are "not allowed to talk about" for fear of being labeled as a "nut" or "crazy" We deal with people who don't care... who have nothing to loose, who are willing to take a chance... all at our expense... We deal with murderers, rapists, child abusers, wife beaters, drunks, drug addicts, theifs, burglars... We chase people who shoot at others and at us when most sane people would run and hide... We don't. We chase criminals down dark alleys and gangways not knowing who or what is waiting for us around the corner. We execute search warrants in the effort to "make that big pinch" and put that bad guy in jail... again once we hit that door we have no idea who is in there or what's waiting for us... We see dead babies, burned babies/people, shot people.. people with their brains blown out... We see people do things to opther people that animals don't do to their young... We se people dismembered in violent car wrecks and dui accidents... We deal with an occasional nice person... a person who appreciates what we do and who we are.. Sometimes we will get a "God bless you officer" or a waive from a small child or an elderly citizen... Often times in many areas of the city we will waive to small children only to hear the parent pulling that child along to "Not wave at that mother f*&^$r"... We shake our heads in amazement all the while knowing how much we do for so little because we enjoy being the police.... I have been a police officer for almost 17 years in this city and I have known many officers who have died doing the job that they love... I have personally known many of these officers.. I also have known several officers who just couldn't take it any more because of all of the stress they have in their personal life and their professional life and dealing with all of the above things and more... There is NO REASON we as police officers should ever allow one of our own to get to this point... We are a family, we are all we have.. Please brothers and sisters protect each other and always go that extra mile to do whatever it takes to help eachother out... anything, anytime anyplace. PERIOD! I don't care who it is, where they live, or what they look like or how much they piss you off.. They are police officers and we must take care of our own. If anyone ever feels lost or helpless I offer my help any time anyplace... I have been where you have been and felt some of the ways you have felt.. There is NOTHING worth hurting yourself for ... You have friends and people who care about you... I don't need to know you personally.. I will help you because you are a brother/sister police officer and that's all that matters... Call me anytime... 773-807-2131... ANYTIME...
Sincerely,
Sgt. Mark Golosinski
Once, after a Sat. night of heavy cocktailing, I was woken up at 3:30am by a frantic phone call from the mother of my best friend.
He was with me earlier in the evening and was upset over getting dumped by his HS sweetheart. His mom said he had called home and was going to kill himself. He was down by the lakefront. I jumped into my car with a 6 pack of beer and found him on the rocks near Montrose Harbor. It was cold and raining. I lured him away from the crashing waves with a beer and the promise of having the heat on in the car.
After that night we drifted apart, mostly because I went into the police academy a few weeks later and he met and married another woman and moved out of state.
That was over 30 yrs ago. Around 10 yrs ago he was in town and got in touch with me and wanted to get together. He wanted to thank me for saving his life. I quickly blew it off and said it wasn't THAT dramatic. He vehemently disagreed. Mostly, he said I was there, and THAT was the important thing.
I didn't remember threatening to kill him myself if he made me jump in after him, but I apparently did. I didn't see how that was important either, but he said that it was simply a firm indication on my part that I had no intention of allowing him to end it all.
So, without being terribly aware of it, I had caused some epiphanies to occur in my friends' life that night. One thing that surfaced, was how easily he abandoned his suicide attempt with the enticement of the beer that I had brought along. I had never known this, but he ended up going through an alcohol rehab program, returned to college and got his degree AND got a Masters of Social Work (MSW) and ended up working as an advisor to the Governor of his state, regarding Alcoholism and Alcohol Rehabilitation Programs.
I guess my point in all of this is obvious. When a friend asks for help, it is important that you step up and be a friend. Sometimes its just about allowing someone a chance to reboot or refocus, to take a deep breath and chill out. Not everyone will turn it around and end up advising the Governor. But surely they deserve the opportunity to try.
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: ( R.I.P. Sister
My thoughts and prayers are with the family of this sister in blue. May God bless you.
Everyone, please stay prayed up. Before you leave for work, when you get to work and when you're on the way home from work, say a prayer. It works!!
God help this young lady that seen no way out. I have been there, I pray for her soul. I pray that GOD realizes we hurt alot down here, and its very messed up. The job ya all have is very staining in all kinds of ways. You all see very bad stuff, and you all deal with alot of ugliness... God knows this.
He knows we hurt, he knows its all messed up. God Please now comfort this woman & her family.
In JESUS' name ..AMEN ...
Please take time to do what you have to do to heal yourselves, and GOD be with US all..PEACE
Why is it we will call our friends with good new, but we never call our friends when we are sad. That is the time to talk to your friends the most. Even if your not going to be honest about your reason for calling. If you need a friend you can call me. I work the 1st watch in the 15th district and I have an ear to hear you and a shoulder to lean on. Call EAP just because your the police doesn't exempt you from having felling. It's ok to cry I have and I'm not afraid to admit it, I have been to EAP and Adler for help. If you need someone to listen and don't want to go for help call me 312-671-4964
Bob Mangan 015 1st watch
Thoughts and prayers are with the family.
RIP Office
You will be missed, our hearts are so heavy thinking about how much you were hurting and we had no idea.
And I have to agree, the bosses on 3rd watch in 024 had no idea how to handle this. We handled it on our own the way we always do. We talked about her, shared stories and laughed about the good times.
Sometimes I think the bosses have no idea about the things we see out here, the things we deal with night after night. This is not a slam, they just forget because they don't do it any more.
They don't remember the one look, the one case, the one arrest, the one desperate kid that stays with you for days. And they forget that all that builds up sometimes.
So, hey bosses....it gets bad out here sometimes. Ease up on us a little, we're dealing with a lot these days.
Oh my God, this is just so heartbreaking, I will pray for this precious police officer's family, friends' co-workers and first responders'. May God be with you all.
When my brother Officer Don Marquez, was killed while serving his last warrant for the night in March of 2002, my world stopped, I never knew what depression was, and the more I isolated myself from everyone, the worst I got, I called a Chaplain they came to my house and prayed with me. Chaplain Tori and Bernadette were also 2 strong pillars for me to lean on. I started counseling with EAP and it was there that I was able to cry it out. It took weeks and eventually years where I was beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Please officers seek help, I put my pride aside and sought the help I so desperately needed. I am now able to reach out to our Gold Star Families because of the counseling that CPD made available to me. I love you officers and pray for you all. This is too painful for me tonight, just last weekend I attended two wakes due to suicide, one was an officer and his wife. The pain is unbearable for all family members and friends left behind. Please if you see any warning signs especially with the holidays just around the corner, have the courage to speak up and intervene anyway that you can. I am here for you too, I am just a phone call away. Please feel free to e-mail me at donnamarquez8620@yahoo.com or call me at (630-607-9796.) I will do whatever I can to help you or your family. God Bless You all Brave and Courageous Officers. Sincerely, Donna Marquez, President of the CPD Gold Star Families.
I worked with her one time & would have never expected this. A great person from what I saw. This has bothered me all day & I pray for her family and I ask Jesus to have mercy on her soul, I'm truley sad by her loss.
Who is Dr. Sobo and what services does he provide? How can we reach him.
It should be Clear to all the leadership that were are hurting and abused...
They are to wrapped up looking at themselves in the mirror saying you are the best. I know of a female Captain who made fun of a copper for a depression type issue. She is also one of our peer pressure people.
Dr. Sobo is a psychologist at the Employee Assistance Program. The number is in your FOP book. Call him, he's good and you will feel better by talking to someone.
Seeking any kind of HELP does not make you a dumb or a weak person. Being in a Law Enforcement profession is very stressful, so, please take a time off away from our job if you think you need it.
Remember, FAMILY comes first before anything / anyone else.
Rest in peace , C.B.
EAP is there for us when times get tough. Don't wait! I have used their services & appreciate them for helping me through difficult times. Without them I don't know what would have happened.
They truly can help!
Ditto to all the above.
My sympathies to the family.
Anonymous said...
Who is Dr. Sobo and what services does he provide? How can we reach him.
10/23/2010 03:13:00 AM
Reach out to any peer support member and they will help you contact Dr. Sobo. Peer members are in every unit. Or call EAP. There should be a poster listing peer support members hanging somewhere in your unit. Peer members are there to help you with anything. Do not hesitate and ask.
***EAP 312-743-0378 1759 W. Adams***
They are not only available to you, but to your immediate family as well. Services are free and CONFIDENTIAL!
Who is Dr. Sobo and what services does he provide? How can we reach him.
This shows that this program needs more exposure. You can reach Dr. SOBO through the Employee assistance program, or call St. Michaels house and make an appointment. This guy knows his shit, and for once the Dept. put somebody in a posistion that was overqualified for it. Please get help if you need it! This Dr. is legit! I know that it is hard for a PO to reach out and ask for help. Get over it, and reach out! This guy understands the police!!!
I'll see him again if I need to.
"Who is Dr. Sobo and what services does he provide? How can we reach him."
A very well qualified Psychiatrist who deals with the police on a regular basis. If you think you need help today, reach out to him. There are no downsides to this. Everything is confidential between you and him. No notes, and no records. I consider him something of a friend even though I havent seen him in several years now. He has a great personality, and really wants to help people.
St. Michaels house has his contact info.
I pray that those in need will reach out.
Amen
O.T.
"Free COZZI!!!"
My sympathy to her family and friends in this difficult time.
Please open another post there is much to say about this topic bedside respect for this officer. The bosses dont care
Who is Dr. Sobo and what services does he provide? How can we reach him.
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Robert Sobo, Psy.D. Clinical therapist professional Counseling Services @ Employee Assistance. (312) 743-0378.
Don't ever feel afraid or ashamed to get help. I'm a P.O/ Iraq Veteran and currently in treatment.
I keep returning to this thread or post because it's helping me cope right now with this incident. Thank you SCC
Dr. Sobo is one of the clinicians at EAP. He as well as the other clinicians are good people.
RIP Officer
May she rest in peace! Be safe out there! Dont let the internal and external forces get you down!
May the Lord welcome her into His arms and may He comfort her family during these dark hours.
I've known the officer almost 8 years. Always been classy, polite, civil, and always had a kind work for those the officer worked with. I wish I knew a way to turn back the clock and help somehow.
May you Rest In Peace.
Heavenly Father,
We pray that you, in your infinite Love and Mercy, have caught our little sister up in you loving embrace and took her to an eternal heavenly home with you.
Send your healing spirit to visit with her beloved ones, her friends and brethren in blue.
It is not so much that she went the way that all flesh must go...
But that her light shone among those she left behind. If even for a little while...
God Bless Us All.
Rest in Peace, C.B. may have the peace with god that you you were looking for here on earth!!!!!! from one of your FTO....K.N.
I have known this officer for years. One thing I can say about her is she was very smart and had a lot going for her. Her absence will be sorely missed. I wish I could go back to a roll call years ago and show her all the great thing people have posted about her. Rip.
I too thank Dr. Sobo from EAP. He Helped me get through the roughest point in my life. We have pressures at work which are many times compunded by problems at home. He was the one person who was able to help me through it after talking to many other therapists. He understands us and is excellent at helping you sort out your problems. I sometimes feel that I would have not made it through this without his help. I was too proud for many years to admit I needed help. I guess it goes with the fact we are the police and are supposed to be strong and invincible. But we are not. I thank God for Dr. Sobo. He helped me sort out everything in my life and helped me to understand how to move forward.
Anybody who is at the end of their rope, please seek him out. Sometimes we feel as if their is no way out, but there is. I pray for the officer and hope she is at peace. But please remember there is help for us out here. We have a streessful job and problems in our personal lives just coumpound our depresssion many times. It is free and confidential. Don't be too proud to admit you are overwhelmed. It happens to us all.
If you need help just seek out EAP. They are free and they understand. They are a Godsend.
In my career I've known ten cops personally who took their lives. Not necessarily good friends, but people who knew me by my first name, who I knew by their first name....people I would stop and say "hi" to if I saw them at work, court, at the supermarket. Ten people who for whatever reason took their own lives and now are gone forever.
I don't know this latest officer, but by all accounts I would have been glad to have known her. And now she's gone.
WE as a group need to reinforce support and caring for our fellow officers. Be there and be a good listener if needed. And those who may be down in spirit, who think there is no other way, please know there is another way, that you have people who care about you, that want you to stay. Talk to EAP if nothing else. They will help and tomorrow the sun will come out.
i to have gone through tough times in my life and thought about doing it. For any of you reading this and feel that way, seek help like I did and you WILL get through it. Remember your family and friends who will be lost without you. ALL problems can be fixed and you will get better.
Dr Sobol look in you FOP book under EAP him and Kathy do a great job in dealing with anything and everything thats tearing your world apart. I know been there and through their help I came back from brink of saying FUCK IT !!! and ending it all.
Thanks Bob.
I feel so bad for this officer and her family and friends. There are so many comments that read that people should reach out for help, which they should. That would be a lot easier if people on this job treated each other more kindly.
I work in a south-side district where other officers show such disdain and judgement for co-workers, it really is sad. The gossiping is out of control and there really is an atmosphere of a high school, even with veteran, older officers. There are some days when I can barely handle walking past the desk due to the horrible attitudes you have face there, let alone asking one of these people for help. This goes for the sergeants and other bosses too.
I am sorry for the long comment, I just hope maybe someone out there who reads this decides to maybe keep the snide comments, gossiping, and judgement to themselves.
Words hurt.
Requiescat in pace et in amore Miles Azure
Sancte Michael Archangele,
defende nos in proelio;
contra nequitiam et insidias diaboli esto praesidium.
Imperet illi Deus, supplices deprecamur:
tuque, Princeps militiae Caelestis,
satanam aliosque spiritus malignos,
qui ad perditionem animarum pervagantur in mundo,
divina virtute in infernum detrude.
Amen.
Civil.Servant.ORD
May this Police Officer rest in peace, prayers for her and her family.
And to Sgt. Mark Golosinski , Bob Mangan, and Donna Marquez - THANK YOU!
as someone who lost my father to suicide, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE talk to someone, call a hotline, get help....nothing in life is so bad you can't get through it, and nothing you've done while alive is worse than the pain you leave behind with such a final act.
I have known this officer since we were in the academy together. I liked her right from the start. We worked in the same district a few years back and again this past summer/fall. She was a wonderful person and friend, just recently giving me advice. I was absolutely shocked to hear this awful news and I cannot stop thinking of her. I simply cannot comprehend this and I wish there was something that I could have done. I am so lucky to have known her this short time and she will always have a place in my heart. I will never forget the memories and laughter that we shared. She has touched so many people here on Earth and will continue to do so as an angel in heaven. My deepest sympathy goes out to her family as I cannot even imagine their pain. No matter how desperate and dark things may seem there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Suicide is NEVER the answer!! Please seek help and talk to someone.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with the officer and her family. May she rest in peace, and may her family find peace.
BUT LET US NOT FORGET that it is not just the POs that may be hurting. As difficult and challenging the work of a police officer may be, as hard of a toll it may take on you, it is just as hard if not harder on your loved ones, espcially your spouse.
The one thing that had disappointed me the most as the wife of a police officer is the lack of support and fellowship with other wives. I have gotten the middle-of-the-night call that makes your blood run cold and I received more compassion and understanding from my husband's fellow officers than from any of the wives. I did not want to burden my husband's partner with my pain, but in the absence of any wives reaching out to me, I'm glad I did.
My point is that this job takes its toll on everyone involved with it, no matter the role they play. We need to be there for each other, 24/7 and without judgement. It is very lonely in the middle of the night when you feel that you have no one to reach out to. Looks can be very deceiving, so always go the safe route and do a little more for someone who may be hurting. It will never be the wrong choice to make.
Also, I just want to add my two-cents about the pain that is left behind when someone takes their life ... being someone who has tried to do that before, I think it is unfair to say that the pain the loved ones feel is greater than the pain of the one taking his own life. Most of you, thankfully, will never know that kind of pain and cannot wrap your head around what it must feel like to hurt so much, to feel so desperate that you would take your own life. As far as I'm concerned, there is no greater pain. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let us look out for each other, especially during this season of low morale. I am very worried for the men and women of the CPD and all of you are in my prayers. I have said before, when times were good, that I could not do your job, and I DEFINITELY could not do your job in these times. I commend you for the work that you do and for the sacrifices that each of you make for the good of people that could care less. You are better humans than me because I could not do what you do. Please be safe, and please don't try to go it alone. There are people out there who can help you and want the best for you. And most importantly, never-ever forget that YOU ARE LOVED.
Please open another post there is much to say about this topic bedside respect for this officer. The bosses dont care
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So true. First to suspend and have a press conference to condemn cops before even having the most basic info, yet not even a word when one of use takes their life. You're a class act, Weis.
Eric Berger from 017th ended his life last year around this time....but he had a disease and was in great pain..he often talked about ending hs life..... R.I.P. sisters and brothers in blue...
Even though there are some new posts and/or different topics of discussion on SCC,I continue to return to this post because it is helping me cope by reading all the comments. I think it is helping others also. Thanks SCC
To all the people that posted their namnes and numbers to help copper' in need......you are all Saints in my eyes. May G-d bless you all always.
I also want to add that Kathy Keating from EAP is wonderful, especially for women who might feel more comfortable talking to another woman. She really helped me when I was going through a tough time and severe depression. She I'd honest and straightforward, yet compassionate. I felt very comfortable talking with her and I do not trust or feel comfortable with many people.312-743-0378.
God Bless her and her family.
RIP my sister.
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