Former Cop on Divorce
Part of avoiding or stopping officers from harming themselves is dragging some issues out of the darkness and addressing them. Divorce is (unfortunately) common among the Department and a driving factor in many police suicides.
A former officer does some freelance writing for the Law Enforcement Today website and opens up about his recent struggles. Click over and give it a read.
A former officer does some freelance writing for the Law Enforcement Today website and opens up about his recent struggles. Click over and give it a read.
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posted by SCC at 12:01 AM
88 Comments:
How do u stay married working on a job that changes your life/ start & end time- encourages wrkn hard & staying all night then going to court in the morning? Almost IMPOSSIBLE because your never home! I pray for u guys. FIND A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK.
Drinking excessive is a big factor in marital problems and an even bigger factor in depression. Alcohol reacts differently on individuals. There’s so much that can be said about alcoholism in law enforcement. I know for a fact and have studied it when drinking as well as sobriety.
I wish I could personally visit with each and every officer that struggles with it. Sadly, coworkers and bosses see it as a socially accepted thing.
I’m glad to be alive today.
Onerous, scandalous and evil. Most definitely.
The thought of marriage or starting a family in a country where the divorce rate tops out at almost 75% sends crippling arctic chills down my spine.
Not an officer. Daily reader.
be careful. relationships can be dangerous.
Excellent article. The simple truths about which Brian pens are invaluable. I wish that I was half as cognizant before my first Baby Mama bailed.
2:05 AM
Yeah, marriage in this country used to increase your
socioeconomic status. Now, as you point out, it's just
the opposite today. You don't have to cheat or do anything
wrong. It's no fault. Why would you ever buy a franchise
business if the failure rate was that high? The women enter
into marriage with essentially a money back guarantee. For
guys it's just the opposite. Terrible odds of survival. That's
why you have to reach out for help. You can't fight this by
yourself. Please seek out professional help.
Excellent piece Brian; needs to be said frequently, the love and excitement of the job too often supercedes the more important love for our God and family.
He admits to being a bad parent and a neglectful spouse. The job can do that very easily. He has been through a lot, but seems to be going forward. God Bless him.
I remember the incident what happened to him he’s a good cop he’s a good man well written God bless you brother thanks for your insight!
I am glad i saw that article before things with my boyfriend who I want to spend the rest of my life with got so much worse, I am in public safety and he is investment/financial private sector employment, and being in public safety and seeing the stuff we do... alot of times all i do is constantly bitch and complain about either of us having to work a job when so many people dont even bother, and working was beginning to make me feel worthless, since so many able bodied people choose to live off the government, and expect handouts which neither of us get or expect, and makes work so depressing. this was the perfect article to read. THANKS SO MUCH SCC! YOU GUYS RULE, STAY SAFE AND PROTECT EACH OTHER.
Please don't let a divorce get you down to the extent where it is said that many of our members chose suicide in a weak moment, 'a final solution to a temporary problem.'
Don't just move on, move forward. Life is a gift, treasure it.
I didn't have a failed marriage, but i did have a sucessful divorce !
Just another example of something taken away from officers, their ability to have a healthy relationship. This Dept sucks the life out of you and your family unless you're part of the elite and constantly taken care of. I was never married, I never wanted to subject a woman to this life. Its a shame that so many good men and women have suffered through this job ruining their relationships. I see so many young officers and feel bad for them because I know they are sacrificing their chance at happiness for paycheck. If I could go back 20+ years, I would have chosen a normal happy life and relationship over this paycheck.
I once heard that over 75 percent of marriages with at least one Police officer end in divorce. That is an amazing statistic. I'm surprised it isn't talked about more.
Anonymous said...
Onerous, scandalous and evil. Most definitely.
10/07/2019 01:05:00 AM
Nice. Oldie but goodie.
Good read.
Excellent article B, thanks for letting us all into your inner life in order that we may all do better. I want you to also know that you are more than enough brother even in spite of your injuries and divorce. Keep your head up and continue to pray and take one day at a time. D
Good article.
This is a serious and a not talked about, bottled up issue.
Too bad the Dept doesn’t emphasize this hidden stress factor more than they do for changing hours, canceling days off and activity quotas.
Never mind that it’s a thankless City that coddles the violent feral.
Maybe FOP can get a reprint request for the Newsletter and/or someone will reprint this and float some copies around the Desk and lock rooms.
The thought of marriage or starting a family in a country where the divorce rate tops out at almost 75% sends crippling arctic chills down my spine.
Not an officer. Daily reader.
------- This is proof the agenda of the communist left has taken foot here. Destruction of the family is one of the three pillars of their philosophy. Single motherhood is glorified in all pop culture and media; TV, music, cinema etc. It wasn't that long ago when being a single unwed mother or getting a divorce was unthinkable and brought public shame to the family. Thanks to the progressives it has become en vogue to be 16 and pregnant, or 45 y.o. divorcés back in the singles bars dating people not much older than their kids. And people wonder why we generations of psychotic youths on mood stabilizers and cities loaded with cannibis vaping zombies.
Anonymous said...
How do u stay married working on a job that changes your life/ start & end time- encourages wrkn hard & staying all night then going to court in the morning? Almost IMPOSSIBLE because your never home! I pray for u guys. FIND A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK.
10/07/2019 12:18:00 AM
Yes, marriage is very difficult when you are the police. It is doubly difficult when you and your spouse are the police. There is a lot of infidelity out there. I was a victim of it and I saw a lot more going on. I stayed with her after her first affair, but after her 3rd, I knew it was time to move on. The losers in this? The kids.
Unfortunately this is a product of our disposable society. I have been happily/unhappily married to my best friend for 33+ years (plus 5 years dating prior). We're Baby Boomers who learned and took cues from our parents, the Greatest Generation who were also happily/unhappily married for many years (my parents are living and married 60+ years). I know it's hard, but if you take too much of this job home with you or, worse, start identifying yourself with the job, it will ruin your home life. They told us in the academy that it's probably a good idea not to date/marry other police officers; I always thought that was very good advice. They also told those of us who were married that half of us would wind up divorced. I retired a couple of months ago and my marriage is ten times better with this job in my rear view mirror (I still like the blog, though.) Back each other up, answer your calls, leave the job in your locker and go home. Then make it to retirement and really enjoy life.
Anonymous Anonymous said...
How do u stay married working on a job that changes your life/ start & end time- encourages wrkn hard & staying all night then going to court in the morning? Almost IMPOSSIBLE because your never home! I pray for u guys. FIND A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK.
Most officers are resilient and find a way to work it out
I get it, not a cop, but was a dispatcher. I know how hard the job is on all of you. You see things no one should ever see, then have to go home and act like everything is fine. You have to put on a happy face for the kids, when you just saw one that was just beaten to death by its own parents. The horrors you see never leaves you, but you don’t talk about them. Then there are the hours spent away from your families. Missed birthdays, and holidays. I get all of it. If you need help, get it, work on your marriage, it’s worth it in the long run.
good observations for everyone, not just cops. the divorce rate in this country is crazy. and it sucks to find out your spouse no longer wants to be your spouse.
about half of all marriages end in divorce in this country so you basically have a 50-50 shot at it.
He admits to being a bad parent and a neglectful spouse. The job can do that very easily. He has been through a lot, but seems to be going forward. God Bless him.
Women initiate divorce at a much higher rate and demand us to be ambitious in a job that thwarts ambition. If they don’t have the life they want, they find a reason. A man’s love is generally sacrificial and a woman’s love is conditional. Women love us as much as they need us...once we accept this, we’re better for it
Don't get married I'm forced to pay $2000 a month alimony and child support had to move back with my parents now.
i hope escamerit reads this
Do not invest/allow someone to have that much control of your soul and psychological well being. We are all a Tinder swipe away from being replaced. Or replacing. Stop treading water in the waters of misery. Leave. You'll be fine. Kids complicate things dramatically obviously. Love is a gamble. And yes, "a battlefield"
I once heard that over 75 percent of marriages with at least one Police officer end in divorce. That is an amazing statistic. I'm surprised it isn't talked about more.
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It would not surprise me given the rate in the population at large is about 50%. Police jobs tend to attract personality types who are often not the easiest people to get along with in the first place.
And really, very few spouses want you to bring your job home with you and if you can't leave the job at the end of a shift, it does not matter much what kind of job you have, it will be a marriage stress inducer.
Don't blame your marital problems on the job. Its your marriage and if you want it to work you will need to put some effort into it. Letting a mere job get in the way of that is a marriage killer.
To 6:03 am
Who of us is not a lousy parent and spouse? you better get a little humility pal.
Well if these jag off lawyers didn’t rape you with 5k and up to begin proceedings and paperwork a monkey can do, we would be better off. So not only will your ex get half, deferred comp, pension, half of all debt combined you pay and they the other half, maintenance if applicable so don’t live a extravagant lifestyle because the ex will be entitled to keep that lifestyle you guys had. Sell your Your home and give half to ex or buy them out even though they didn’t contribute to mortgage or give up the house you worked hard for because ex didn’t work. DIVORCE IMMEDIATELY !!!!! Don’t wait 9 yrs later because you will pay alimony for each year of marriage. Buy the house in your name before you sign that marriage license guys. Have property in your name only beforehand. Anything after that is half and you may have to sell your Harley bikes or ex will take them to fuck with you. Good luck with child support a different can of worms and the moment you’re ex gets served their lawyer will file (cannot recall term used) but you begin paying spousal support without being officially divorced!!!! Wtf. Did make a killing on OT this year? Guess what that years tax return will be used against you sets the tone of how much alimony you’ll pay and your fucked. This needs to taught in the academy folks. Good luck you really never know who you’re marrying. Don’t ever move out of your home unless court ordered or ex will get a bullshit OOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
..... The grass is green where you water it, boys and girls.....
Sure, divorce rate is high, not a secret, but too many people that bang everyThing that moves, married or not, and complain about the significant leaving them. Not saying, but saying.
Finding a mate and having offspring is Natural. Life is too difficult to handle alone. It is not easy to stay together, it takes a lot of work. Having kids is a pain in the ass, but what else do you have to do?
Previous poster said: Family is under attack by Commies- this is true. They want to create incels, homosexuals and transexuals to genocide caucasians. Hollywood and TV are blatent about attacking traditional families.
It used to be 3 generations in one house: grandparents would watch the kids, mom would cook/clean while dad would work. Progressiives have pushed us to put grandparents in a nursing home to drain savings, mom and dad both have to work, kids go to daycare. This is much more profitsble for these progressive elitie bankers, but it wasn't enough. They want more: everyone has their own apartment, bills, etc.
The Old ways are the best ways.
Stay single. Don't get married. Been married, separated, and divorced. Biggest mistake in my life. My advice,don't do it !
My advice for young police officers,don't get married. You will thank me!
Been married,separated,and divorced.Pay my ex $3000.00 or 50% a month, plus 50 % of my duty availability,overtime,holidays,and BFD and personal days. Get a prenup!
Get a prenup. Protect your assets.
According to statistics 40-50 of marriage's end in divorce in the United States.
The old lady and me always agreed with the old adage to never go to bed mad....so sometimes we kept the argument going for days until we both passed out from sleep deprivation.
Just another example of something taken away from officers, their ability to have a healthy relationship. This Dept sucks the life out of you and your family unless you're part of the elite and constantly taken care of. I was never married, I never wanted to subject a woman to this life. Its a shame that so many good men and women have suffered through this job ruining their relationships. I see so many young officers and feel bad for them because I know they are sacrificing their chance at happiness for paycheck. If I could go back 20+ years, I would have chosen a normal happy life and relationship over this paycheck.
10/07/2019 08:33:00 AM
Not every officer has an unhealthy relationship. Was on the job for a lot of years, too many to admit to and have been married over 40 years
We worked it out , raised two children and made adjustments. Live a good life now with a good pension and the deferred comp I get
Guess it’s different now but the job was good to me and never wanted any other job. Could not stand being behind a desk all day or the pressure of sales. When in patrol enjoyed the freedom of being my own boss and after becoming a detective even enjoyed it more. No way I could have worked a job being confined to a certain space. Anyway you guys take care and find a way to wirk it out and make the job work for you. It can be done but a lot harder under current conditions
It would not surprise me given the rate in the population at large is about 50%. Police jobs tend to attract personality types who are often not the easiest people to get along with in the first place.
And really, very few spouses want you to bring your job home with you and if you can't leave the job at the end of a shift, it does not matter much what kind of job you have, it will be a marriage stress inducer.
Don't blame your marital problems on the job. Its your marriage and if you want it to work you will need to put some effort into it. Letting a mere job get in the way of that is a marriage killer.
Set the rules early in the marriage. You don’t bring your work problems home and I won’t. Who wants to come home and listen to each other’s work problems every night. Deal with it. It worked for me
Anonymous said...
How do u stay married working on a job that changes your life/ start & end time- encourages wrkn hard & staying all night then going to court in the morning? Almost IMPOSSIBLE because your never home! I pray for u guys. FIND A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK.
Cut down on the arrests. That’s how. Less arrests, less court time. Share the court with your partner.
Anonymous Anonymous said...
I get it, not a cop, but was a dispatcher. I know how hard the job is on all of you. You see things no one should ever see, then have to go home and act like everything is fine. You have to put on a happy face for the kids, when you just saw one that was just beaten to death by its own parents. The horrors you see never leaves you, but you don’t talk about them. Then there are the hours spent away from your families. Missed birthdays, and holidays. I get all of it. If you need help, get it, work on your marriage, it’s worth it in the long run.
10/07/2019 12:17:00 PM
Make adjustments. We aren’t the only occupations that work 4-12 , midnights and holidays. Celebrate the birthdays and holidays wearier or later on Christmas if on days celebrate after work , on 4-12 before work and on midnights have from 8AM to 10 PM. my point is it can be done. Many po’s do it along with many other service employees
Married 20 years to a man I love who was career CPD. But that lifestyle of drinking, cheating and lying about both finally did the marriage in.
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Been married,separated,and divorced.Pay my ex $3000.00 or 50% a month, plus 50 % of my duty availability,overtime,holidays,and BFD and personal days. Get a prenup!
10/07/2019 07:29:00 PM
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Get a prenup. Protect your assets.
Prenup helps you protect and keep anything you had prior to getting married. Not so much after. Spouse will get 1/2 of your pension for the years you were married and if he or she has a sharp lawyer half the CU you earned while married. Prenup doesn’t help there
Don't need to get married, just have a girlfriend. She has her job, car, apartment or condo, and you have your job, car, apartment or condo. You each have your own jobs and work and have your own expenses. Once you move in together, your in for a big surprise. Don't get joint bank accounts, don't start buying things together, don't get vehicles in the same title, and don't share the bills. Trust me, this dummy did this. Biggest mistake in the world. I wish I NEVER did all the above. I learned my lesson the hard way in divorce, and might I say, a very expensive divorce!
Fuck that, I wouldn't get married if you gave me 10 Harley-Davidson motorcycles!
Been there, done that...no thank you!
Young officers stay single. Was cashed in by my wife after a 25 yr. Marriage. Cost me a large portion of my pension, deferred comp and my house.
- This is proof the agenda of the communist left has taken foot here. Destruction of the family is one of the three pillars of their philosophy. Single motherhood is glorified in all pop culture and media; TV, music, cinema etc. It wasn't that long ago when being a single unwed mother or getting a divorce was unthinkable and brought public shame to the family. Thanks to the progressives it has become en vogue to be 16 and pregnant, or 45 y.o. divorcés back in the singles bars dating people not much older than their kids.
Are you fucking kidding me??? Trump has 5 kids, with three different baby mamas, and it's the communist left that's destroyed the traditional family? Blow it out your ass, dude!
Don't blame the job on the demise of a marriage; if you want your relationship to work, you invest in it! Going out on a regular basis to drink with the 'guys on your team' doesn't help your home life. Have your friends, have a few pops, but NEVER forget the commitment you have back home, to your spouse/domestic partner and the children you share. Don't lose sight of what's important!
@10/07/2019 05:14:00 PM
Wow almost verbatim of my experience. And don't forget another dude living in your house ,you slaved for, gets to see your kids every day. Took me almost a decade to get out of the divorce bankruptcy hole to decent standard of living again.
Don't get married without a prenup.
Here's another kernel of information to keep in mind, any inheritance money you receive should never be put in joint savings. Keep any inheritance separate.
knew a guy(another copper) who had been married and divorced three times he finally hit on a solution ,, every five years find a woman you hate and buy her a house,, saves on legal bills and other wear and tare
Jesus wasn't married...he was too busy preaching the Word of God.
Remember police work is NOT the same as another job. Do it for about 30 years and then talk to me afterwards!
Are you fucking kidding me??? Trump has 5 kids, with three different baby mamas, and it's the communist left that's destroyed the traditional family? Blow it out your ass, dude!
10/08/2019 02:34:00 AM
Yeah and we see them by his side all the time. Blow that commie!!!
Retired copper here and married for 40 years and still going. #1 issue is booze. That almost got me divorced a few times. Booze causes a lot of problems both on and off the job. I still drink but not out closing the bars and whoring around like I used 2.
The best thing you have is at home, believe that.
Don't think, your old lady will agree 2 this and that, once the fucking lawyer get's 2 them, it's and all out fuck in your direction!
"...Trump has 5 kids with three babies mamas..."
The difference between him and Joe is that he married those three women and has taken care of all the kids.
Are you fucking kidding me??? Trump has 5 kids, with three different baby mamas, and it's the communist left that's destroyed the traditional family? Blow it out your ass, dude!
10/08/2019 02:34:00 AM
Yes, it is still the left, triggered moron.....
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Been married,separated,and divorced.Pay my ex $3000.00 or 50% a month, plus 50 % of my duty availability,overtime,holidays,and BFD and personal days. Get a prenup!
10/07/2019 07:29:00 PM
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Get a prenup. Protect your assets.
Prenup helps you protect and keep anything you had prior to getting married. Not so much after. Spouse will get 1/2 of your pension for the years you were married and if he or she has a sharp lawyer half the CU you earned while married. Prenup doesn’t help there
10/07/2019 10:06:00 PM
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Keep her working. Alimony, or support as it's now called, will be based on her ability to support herself. But I don't think this is so much about the $ as it is not being near your kids everyday, especially if they are little. I went through it when I was younger, when I was just a kid myself really and was not prepared for even marriage, much less divorce. And if you're young, I agree, prenups are useless. Any property you acquire during marriage will be split - including pension. Now, if your bringing a billion $ into the marriage that's something different. The pension is marital property based on how many years of pension you earned while married.
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Here's another kernel of information to keep in mind, any inheritance money you receive should never be put in joint savings. Keep any inheritance separate.
10/08/2019 03:48:00 AM
That is huge. Never intermingle inheritance funds.
invest in it! Going out on a regular basis to drink with the 'guys on your team' doesn't help your home life. Have your friends, have a few pops, but NEVER forget the commitment you have back home, to your spouse/domestic partner and the children you share.
Best thing I've read on here. Marriage can work. If your allowing the job to get in the way then you value work over your partner. Work is just that work. It's a means to an end. If you are choosing to go get drunk with hour tact guys then you shouldn't have got married.
They can break prenups!
Got married my 2nd year OTJ.
Was working 3rd watch. As a PPO, I remember my FTO referring to 3rd as "The Marriage Killer Watch". Far too quickly, I would learn what he meant.
Granted, my marriage was destined for the shitter almost from day 1. Still, working 3rd watch definitely expedited things.
Law enforcement is NOT the same as your other jobs or career's. The divorce rate is very high for police officers compared to other professions. Do this job for 30 year's and then talk to me !
Was married,separated,and divorced. Also went through chapter 7 bankruptcy. My credit was excellent before the marriage. How I wish everyday that I should have never have gotten married. It was the biggest mistake in my life. A very expensive lesson indeed.
Marriage is not what it once was, where the husband worked and the wife maintained the house and children. Nowadays both parents or husband and wife both work. Time's are NOT the same as it once was.
If you're so lonely and need to be married, get a pet dog. A dog will give you years of unconditional love and attention for the life of your pet dog. Man's best friend.
Fuck it
Never got married. Saved myself from all the all the bs with divorce.
Anonymous Anonymous said...
invest in it! Going out on a regular basis to drink with the 'guys on your team' doesn't help your home life. Have your friends, have a few pops, but NEVER forget the commitment you have back home, to your spouse/domestic partner and the children you share.
Absolutely right! Don’t let this job taint your more than it already does. Work for your family, not this job. Make all the family events you can, you can always get more money, but time is fleeting. Watch how much OT you work making sure it doesn’t impact your family life to a point where your marriage is questionable. We, as coppers, must sacrifice a great deal to maintain and have a happy family life. When you have that mindset and understand what you have to do, having a family is a beautiful thing. Having a good family life makes life easier and more enjoyable for me, it’s difficult but it definitely puts everything into perspective.
Personally, I have a few close Cooper friends that have a very similar life view, which helps a lot. I also have A few friends who aren’t coppers. It’s always good to have a balance. Same goes for drinking.
Never got married? Me neither hermano. Would you like to stop by my pretty loft? There, over an unlimited supply of my famous white wine spritzers, we can discuss, at length, the reasons why.
Now, kees me you fool!!!!
I would of been financially very very well if I didn't get married and divorced. Would of had my house, Harley and Corvette!
Don't get married it can go bad anytime she divorced me after I retired she got 2/3 of my pension and social security went from around $5000 a month to $1650. So depressing now I have to go back to work. Remember hide money in safety deposit boxes!
Sometimes it has nothing to do with being a police officer. AT ALL. Sometimes people never should've been together in the first place.
Sad but true, many officers (male and female) are facing divorce or are in toxic marriages. Their home lives are wrecked and they come to work and project negative behaviors on other. Such patterns should not be ignored.
Many divorce proceedings are accompanied by lawsuits and CR#s investigations.
Anonymous said...
Don't get married it can go bad anytime she divorced me after I retired she got 2/3 of my pension and social security went from around $5000 a month to $1650.
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Five thousand dollars far exceeds the maximum social security benefit.
Advice to younger Officers marry up wait until your 40s find a Doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, or Executive.
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Don't get married it can go bad anytime she divorced me after I retired she got 2/3 of my pension and social security went from around $5000 a month to $1650.
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Five thousand dollars far exceeds the maximum social security benefit.
10/10/2019 04:42:00 AM
Pension and social security combined dummy you can get social security too if you work side jobs.
retired now but was a working go getter from about 14. a shitty marriage to a money obsessed child kept me working 7 days a week for 15 years and uber broke for 25 years after the divorce. i worked my way back step by step and she is still a broke ass mess. very well off now but lost the best decades of my life, the moneys nice but i would rather be young and happy. if i hadnt gotten married i know i would be rich, i had no control of my finances with a hostile irrational spouse. i am dead set against kids getting married in its current weaponized progressive form. the wedding industry and the baby industry and of course the sex make these kids think they are entering paradise when its actually the gates of hell. im sure some will disagree.
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Don't get married it can go bad anytime she divorced me after I retired she got 2/3 of my pension and social security went from around $5000 a month to $1650.
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Five thousand dollars far exceeds the maximum social security benefit.
10/10/2019 04:42:00 AM
Pension and social security combined dummy you can get social security too if you work side jobs
If she got 2/3 of your pension and all that social security you must have hired the wrong lawyer
And so much for your $5000 a month SS
According to the AARP, the maximum monthly Social Security benefit that an individual who files a claim for Social Security retirement benefits in 2019 can receive per month is: $3,770 for someone who files at age 70. $2,861 for someone who files at full retirement age (currently 66).Sep 24, 2019
Anonymous Anonymous said...
Are you fucking kidding me??? Trump has 5 kids, with three different baby mamas, and it's the communist left that's destroyed the traditional family? Blow it out your ass, dude!
10/08/2019 02:34:00 AM
Yeah and we see them by his side all the time. Blow that commie!
Lot of lousy advice and comments here. Whether you want it blame the left or the right, the old days are gone. Just keep working, get a trade ot college degree or whatever it is you want to do. But, definitely make your spouse a priority as much as possible. Many people, men and women both, do not do that. You won't be able to go out drink in ng with the watch very often, and may not have as much of a career, let's face it, it's who you know and drink with, that builds connections. But, you will stay married. Just answer calls and do reports, arrest if necessary, give flash message if necessary, thats it. And hopefully retire healthy and uninjured if possible. Many injuries, even if you do get better, you are never the same. God Bless CPD.
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Don't get married it can go bad anytime she divorced me after I retired she got 2/3 of my pension and social security went from around $5000 a month to $1650.
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Five thousand dollars far exceeds the maximum social security benefit.
10/10/2019 04:42:00 AM
Pension and social security combined dummy you can get social security too if you work side jobs
If she got 2/3 of your pension and all that social security you must have hired the wrong lawyer
And so much for your $5000 a month SS
According to the AARP, the maximum monthly Social Security benefit that an individual who files a claim for Social Security retirement benefits in 2019 can receive per month is: $3,770 for someone who files at age 70. $2,861 for someone who files at full retirement age (currently 66).Sep 24, 2019
10/11/2019 05:11:00 PM
You can also collect a pension too you're mixed up it's not just social security includes the pension in $5000 figure I assume that's what the poster was saying>
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